Nearly 10 years ago I went to see a hypnotherapist in the hope that they would help me to quit smoking.
Like all the other times I wasn’t hopeful but was desperate to quit these horrible things that were making my quality of life very poor.
I had tried so many things before but returned to that nasty habit. I had even tried hypnotherapy, but it hadn’t worked. I was determined that the right therapist for me was out there somewhere and with determination I would find them.
The cigarettes were costing me at the time nearly £200 pound a month and my health was beginning to deteriorate. I remember waking at 2 am every morning and lighting up a cigarette. The times I fell asleep with it still lit. So lucky that it didn’t cause a fire.
Had I found the right hypnotherapist?
During my visit I remember the hypnotherapist asking me some questions, mainly why I wanted to quit. I replied I didn’t want to quit but knew I had to keep trying as I was afraid that I would go the same way as others in my family as well as many many people I knew that had suffered with this nasty addiction
There is no miracle cure
She told me straight that Hypnosis wasn’t a miracle cure, but it would help re-program the mind to remove the need to smoke.
We chatted for a while about the triggers in my life (the times when I would look forward to or turn to a cigarette. And the hypnosis started.
I was expecting to be asleep throughout the hypnosis, but I could hear everything she said.
The bizarre things is that I remember her counting to five and telling me to open my eyes. I was thinking I have hardly had any time here, but it was much longer than I thought.
Life without cigarettes
I had read that it takes 96 hours for the body to completely rid itself of that horrible addictive substance so i came out of the session optimistic and even counting the time down to when my 96 hours were up.
I remember looking forward to 12:10 on the Thursday that my life without addiction to cigarettes would finally start and I would be free forever, I even made myself a cup of tea to celebrate.
Months later some friends who knew how strong my addiction was asked for the number of my hypnotherapist to which I of course gave it to them, but alas she was nowhere to be found. She had disappeared. I even began to wonder if she was ever real, but I know she was because she was my inspiration for becoming a hypnotherapist myself.
Help with quitting smoking forever
So many have approached me as a hypnotherapist and asked for help with Smoking cessation and because of my own experiences I understand the importance of listening and understanding the needs of each individual
Smoking not only takes lives but it ruins them
When you are ready to quit smoking you have to truly realise what it is, and has been doing to you, not just from a health and financial perspective but from a subconscious level. It is an addiction and that’s what’s up with addiction; it lays in wait for you. When you have a low point; a tough day at work, a fight at home, a flat tyre, an unexpected illness with your loved one; it strikes! And then you’re smoking again. And you make up all these stories about why it’s OK to smoke just that one.
How Do You Stay Stopped?
There’s one big difference between someone who’s quitting and a Permanent Non-Smoker. The Quitter white knuckles it through but still thinks about smoking and misses it. The Permanent Non-Smoker no longer gives it a thought. It’s just something they “used to do”. If they even thinks about it at all.
Your subconscious mind is responsible for so many things
You might think that your subconscious mind is just for making your heartbeat, or stimulating your lungs to breath etc, but it does much much more than that. Your subconscious mind learns at an early age about life and continues to apply those lessons forever.
You cannot talk to your Subconscious Mind unless in hypnosis
Your subconscious mind controls triggers, urges and cravings; even if those feelings are no longer what you want. But I know I don’t want to smoke anymore and I’ve told my mind that I don’t. Yes, in your Critical Mind you do know that. Your Critical Mind does maths, listens and responds, talks and plans. But your Critical Mind is only 12% of your mental power. You cannot talk to your Subconscious Mind unless in hypnosis. So, when your mind takes a vote to quit smoking, who wins?
Yes, your Subconscious Mind who has an 88% voting block!
Its was cool to smoke
There may be many reasons you started smoking ,and when you first started smoking cigarettes, you taught your Subconscious Mind that there were very good reasons for it. maybe most of your family smoked,maybe it looked cool, maybe someone you looked up to smoked, or maybe it was the social thing to do, whatever your reasons, your subconscious listened and learned, and learned well.
This is your time to get it right
If you are serious about quitting why not contact me to see if Hypnosis is right for you, there are so many myths about hypnosis but the only way to know if there real or myth is to ask.
Smoking can be a thing of the past if you want it to be
There is an old saying that all mediums are psychic, but not all psychics are mediums
I feel I need to clarify that point, as it is very confusing.
First of all, everyone is Psychic, and anyone can become a medium
Psychic means relating to the soul or mind
A psychic is able to read and interpret the energy of an incarnate spirit (the spirit of a living person/or animal)
Sometimes a Psychic will know things about a person’s past/present and future) and is able to convey that information whilst standing face to face, or at a distance.
The reason for this is that we are all made of energy, and we are all part of that universal energy, so once we accept this, there are no limits to how and who we can connect to.
Of course reading in to and analyzing someone’s life through reading there energy/aura can be considered intrusive, so I personally do not do it unless I have been specifically asked.
Very often in my readings I will be asked to have a look at a family member to see what they are up to which I will always refuse unless given express permission by that particular person.
For various reasons most of us tend not to develop our psychic ability and it lies dormant in us forever, occasionally showing itself in a dream state, or a particular feeling or premonition, that is just our inner spirit telling you it is still there and will work if needed.
There are many people that have psychic experiences but are afraid because (depending on our state of mind) the interpretation we can put on something can be quite negative and damning. But remember all interpretation is a matter of perspective, and there are two sides to every scenario.
Mediums are channels that work between the Spirit world and this physical life.
My belief is simple, and that is when our physical body dies, our spirit/soul is released and moves to a higher plane of existence
There are some people who have difficulty with this and take some time to adjust. Some people talk about a soul being trapped between the two worlds.
I find this hard to believe as you are either here or there; there is no in-between.
You can of course be possibly depressed and vibrate at a lower frequency that would restrict you from progressing to that higher plane, and therefore need some guidance and healing, this can be done with the help of a medium and those loved ones in the spirit world working together.
Now back to the medium.
It is my belief that there is no such thing as a natural born medium. To become a medium in the truest sense of the word, and by this I mean to represent the spirit world wholly and responsibly with understanding and responsibility.
You have to have training
In all my years of teaching, I have found that someone’s first message that they give in a class under the guidance of an experienced medium is usually the best. This is because there is no expectation, and it is done under the guidance of the tutor)
Your mediumship itself never changes, it is your awareness understanding, and responsibility that improves, your passion your inner spirit becomes more recognisable by yourself, and when use your intent to raise your own vibration you will eventually have a seamless connection to those in the world of spirit.
There are two types of mediumship Physical and mental.
I myself at this stage of my life am concentrating on mental mediumship.
This means that everything I get is subjective (in the mind)
As mediums we mainly use four senses
There are many many more senses of course.
And as we develop we constantly become aware of many of the others.
I could write about this forever as it is my passion. But I don’t want to over face you with just my opinions.
Mediumship takes years to develop and I believe it can never be perfected, simply because each and every spirit you connect to has a different and unique personality and way of connecting, they are at different levels of progression (as are you) your guides and helpers are constantly change (according to your need at that time)
The spirit world use symbolisms and your guide will use your memory and experiences to purvey the messages to you.
Remember mediumship is the easiest thing in the world. It is the development of the medium that takes so long.
As the late great Gordon Higginson once said.
“We must spiritualize ourselves, it is the only way we will progress”
So the answer to your question is yes you can be a medium, you have that potential within you already. But it takes years of practice and dedication to be the best you can be.
The passion and feeling you get when you truly connect to the spirit world is reward enough
Everything else is a bonus, always strive to be the best you can be
If you would like to know more, or take your Mediumship to the next level, why not come along to my workshop at the Spiritual Truth Centre in St helens on the 25th Feb, or one of my regular weekly development classes which start early March
For more information use the “Contact us” section at the bottom of this page
It saddens me to see such bigoted and blinkered views about how mediumship should be demonstrated or practiced
Especially when it comes from those who should know better and claim to hold the key to the safe that stores the rule book for communicating with the spirit world
In actual fact the key, the safe and the book does not exist except for in the minds of those people.
So what is Mediumship?
Mediumship and all its derivatives is firstly about learning to understand your own spirit and understanding that you are a part of the bigger picture that contains both incarnate and discarnate spirits
Whether you focus on angels, guides, Buddha Christianity, Catholicism etc, it matters not. It is your journey and yours alone.
If you choose to share it you must expect differences of opinion, that is what makes the world go round, but you should stay true to yourself and accept the differences.
There are so very many people who think or say, “Psychic or spiritual communication is unreal. I don’t believe it. You cannot make contact with someone who is dead. You cannot know my past, present or future. It’s just not possible”. They think your services are made up or you’re a crank, only out to make money from unsuspecting people.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
It may be easier or more comfortable for some people to shut off their senses and pretend psychic activity is not real.
In the words of Peter Jackson, a Medium at The Spiritual Truth Centre, St Helens, UK,
“You can’t actually convince someone who doesn’t believe and who doesn’t want to believe. Either their belief will come, or it won’t. The only way to prove it is to try it out in practice.”
Tarot cards have a mixed reception across the world, some will describe them with a negative outlook
But this of course is not the case for everyone. For many (used properly) the Tarot cards are a release from what has been a difficult period in the sitters life. And a sign that the potential is there for it to get better. For some however, the very mention of Tarot cards strikes fear in to their very heart.
The general reason for tarot having a bad name is that many religions would condemn anything that was esoteric or not in line with their beliefs. There are still many people that still condemn the cards as evil. The Catholic Church allegedly call them the devils picture book
Today I want to talk about the various aspects of my profession and break it down into categories which I hope you will not only find interesting but will answer some of the questions you may have about the Mediumship.
When I speak to people as a whole and mention that I am a Spiritual Medium, they are fascinated and mostly request an on the spot reading.
I always politely refuse and explain that a reading is a very special and personal thing that should not be given halfheartedly in the middle of a street or office and without time to prepare your own spirit.
Being a spiritual person in 2014 or in any year is very difficult.
There are so many negative things happening around the world, and the Media is full of stories of disasters and tragedies.
Even the mad rush to buy last minute pressies and food before Christmas causes mayhem and frustration. Queues 9 deep at the supermarket, Trolleys and shoppers going in to attack mode as soon as they enter the supermarket, and even the most spiritual people tend to develop the Angry Shopper Syndrome, and release a mouthful of language that could quite possibly be a prayer in Latin (but I doubt that is what it is) Continue reading »